FMF – “silence”

It’s Friday which means joining up with Kate Motaung over at the Five Minute Friday Community!

How fitting it is that “silence” is the word for this week.

Five minutes on the timer… and go!

I used to desperately crave silence. I would look out my kitchen window at my neighbor across the back yard and see her sunning on her yellow chair and wish and covet and all sorts of desperate things.

I knew, logically, she’d put in her time with littles and now her grands were as old as my kids. She even brought them over to play on our swingset when they were visiting.

Our 4 year old, 2 year old and new baby would drive me the point of distraction with all their needs. I felt awful as a new mom. My other friends all seemed okay with their levels of chaos whereas I felt like an autistic person in a fun house with no end to the crazy lights and noise. I wanted to run screaming out of the house never to return. “never” being a very strong term, but I think you get the idea. Overstimulation was a very real thing for me.

Now, I don’t believe that I’m autistic, but I wish someone would’ve told me that introvert moms react differently to the early mom years. AND IT’S OKAY FOR THEM TO FEEL THE WAY THEY DO. No Mom-guilt or shame in it.

I wish I knew my feelings weren’t to be hidden like I was an awful mom and that to crave silence is a good thing. It means I can recharge and feel like a better human and therefore be a better mommy to these sweet gifts.

I know these things now. So I write this to you, new mom or mom of demanding little people, if you are an introvert (maybe you know it or don’t know it) IT IS OKAY to need silence. In fact, ask for help so you can get some. It’s not admitting defeat or weakness.

This is simply who God has designed you to be – and since He’s perfect in His designs – go with it. 🙂

… and time’s up.

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  1. Hi Ruth! Enjoyed your FMF linkup on the introverted Mom. Wish I had recognized that in myself years ago but the wisdom finally came as a grandmother. Great insight on the difference in mothering between different personalities and classifications! Have a great weekend!

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  2. Very true, Ruth! I was an introverted mom who craved silence too. There were times I felt guilty for intentionally “tuning out” my children. Or hiding in the bathroom (haha). They turned out just fine. “Quiet time” is a wonderful gift to give them, and yourself.

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    1. Denise!! Thanks for stopping by this little space. I am reading through the book Elaine recommended and I’m finding so many things to help me understand myself and my children. I hope they can learn these things earlier than later 🙂

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  3. Ruth, you described my experience nearly to a tee. My littles are 7 and 8 now, but the overstimulation thing is still real. I found you through Susie Finkbeiner’s book launch, but I see we’re both in FMF, too! So glad to connect! Thank you for your encouragement.

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